zombehvamp

 

this blog entry is written in a very cheesy and cringe way like all of my entries, but this time I know what I want to talk about and how I want to talk about it. If you cringe easily and you can't stand extremely emo writing then look away lol I don't wanna make you suffer

ok first we'll focus on the GOOD things.

so I actually cleaned up my room today, my friend kinda motivated me to stop being a loser with no life who gives up way too easily so my room is nice and clean now... I'm running on an hour and a half of sleep though so I feel like a zombie LOL oh, I didn't get any sleep and I felt like a zombie? truly zombehvamp coded of me.

I bought donuts for my whole family with the little money I had left. Now I have the equivalent of like 1/5 of a dollar but my family is happy and I am happy. It was rly hard to get out of bed today and a yummy treat deffo helped!

I'm happy today I got to talk to my friends and spend time with my family, I'm grateful for them even if not everything went smoothly. Some of them are struggling and some are straight up ignoring me but it's fine, I'll reply immediately when they finally reply to me anyways xD

I've been talking to a psychologist, we see each other every monday. We're focusing mostly on my social problems and dealing with stress but we just started so we're still going through the initial stuff.

I have the highest grades in my class without even using extra points, I'm kinda proud tbh xD I guess I'm a bit smart for some things.

Now I'm most likely gonna draw and keep working on the 200 fans drawing, in case you don't know about it you can find all the info here! below is a lil look at it.


enjoy this nyan cat because we're getting to the vent dump part!




lately I've been thinking about the pros and cons about socializing. Do you guys also get extremely stressed out over social situations? It could be something small like a friend of mine having a bad day and I'd feel terrible the entire day if I'm unable to help them. Or maybe it could be a small conflict, discussion or disagreement we had and I immediately start thinking they'll hate me and leave me.
Before whenever that happened I use to put my defenses up and cut them off or put a distance between us, I always wanted to be the one in control and leave before I feel hurt. In my brain it was always a matter of time til it happened, I was terrified of being abandoned and being alone yet I was pushing everyone away and I was lonelier than ever. Or well, That's what I thought.

I got enough friends now, I can't complain. I'm happy with what I have! Yet I feel so lonely anyways, I can't get rid of this constant spiraling I get over every small interaction. I'm so convinced people hate me and want me dead, that they just talk to me out of pity.

"poor ruru, they're so lonely and so needy! always asking for attention! I might entertain them for a while, I might get some free art while at it anyways and they'll say yes to everything I say!"

I used to cut people off, I used to be a cold hearted person that wouldn't let anyone get to close and I only befriended people if I got something out of it. Now I beg like an old dog asking for attention and to be loved like when they first got me.

don't get tired of me! don't leave me! I know I'm bad at this but I can't be alone again! I can't go back to that, not again!

I can't love myself if I'm not loved by others


isn't that the main issue? I'm aware but why don't I do anything about it? why is it so hard to love oneself? am I allowed to like myself? I've made so many errors in my life, I've fucked up so many times, do I deserve love and forgiveness after all that?

it's getting better, life is going good besides the obvious constant bad things I've talked about before yet why do I still feel bad? my anxiety levels are getting close to the levels I had back in 2020, my hands are always shaky and I'm always looking at the floor. I feel pathetic man.

pills don't even work anymore anyways!! it fucking sucks!!

so uhhh I think the best way to keep going is to just suck it up I guess? like I have to come to terms that socializing is not pleasant to me most of the time because of my own self hatred, it's not the fault of others. And I clearly can't fix the self esteem issues atp so I gotta get over it. There's no point in having self pity, I just have to keep going and get shit done!!

I'm not giving up yet, even if I'm miserable I want to function in society, I want to be someone!!
I WILL GET BETTER!!

you just gotta learn to live with the anxiety.

I have to go now, cya
 

 

Today was a really good day. I practiced everything I set myself up to do very well and I managed to even socialize and start projects with people. Ofc not everything was perfect, but nothing truly is. I accept the good with the bad and I'm hopeful that I'll be able to push through everything. I just have to keep taking time to breathe, think before acting, be calm, be kind.

A thing I'd like to work on is my disinterested way of speaking, I always sound monotone or like I'm annoyed or overly robotic when I'm actually talking to people IRL. I have a very aggressive and cold way of speaking that I truly dislike and I want it to change. I think this can be changed by not speaking as much and keeping things to myself, I don't have to give out my opinion on everything, especially if it's negative!

I want my words to be warmer and kinder, I want people to feel loved when they talk to me and this is going to be a very hard thing to achieve. Today I told my grandma I loved her, I think that's a good start. I am terrible at showing affection so this is a big step!
I also took the time to wash the dishes after we ate and I helped set the table.
I want to keep doing little things like this that help people, I often stop myself from helping others in fear of being cumbersome but I will try to keep putting it aside and actually helping others.

I'm grateful for my family again, I love them and I'm glad I get to spend time with them. Idc if I love them more than they love me, I want to give my love to people. I want people to feel loved and happy like I don't feel inside. I want to see smiles and singing and dancing!

Today at school I participated in class and talked with my classmates, I also was brave enough to ask to do a group project which I lowkey regret because I don't really want to go to other people's houses... I get so anxious in other places and it's like 6 or 7 of us, but I'll try my best. If I want to survive and succeed in life I have to get over my social phobia whether I like it or not!

I'm extremely tired but grateful to be so, I'm glad I had a good day after everything that happened. I want things to get better and I know there'll be low points, but I'll push through! I can't get worse anyways because I don't want to risk getting kicked out until I'm done with school.

Today I also ate a meal before going to class which I never do and the next two days I don't have class so I have time to reflect, but I can't apply what I learn in real life that well until the next week when I actually go to class and interact with people. Still I can still learn to be kinder with my family, my cold nature often makes me not be very open with my feelings towards them and I want them to know I care and that I've changed. I want them to be proud of me, I want to be the best version of myself after such a low point.

Goals for tomorrow:
Get out of bed
Be kind
Help with anything around the house
Offer to cook lunch
Clean cat litter
Spend time with online friends
reflect, think, relax and pray

That's all for today. Thank you for giving me such a good day.

Bunny divider by kodaswrld in tumblr

 

I feel like lately God has been sending me a lot of signals that I should let my old self die and become someone new! I keep falling down self destructive habits and I'm ruining my own life by being a bad person. I want to become better for my mom and my friends. I don't think I'll ever truly be able to do this for myself since I truly don't think I can like anything about me, but I can try and be better for others.

I've noticed a lot of narcissistic traits in me, which is why I always call myself one. If I am one, I want to change that. I do have a family member who is a text book narcissist and I'm terrified that I'm becoming like her, I want to be kind and good and loving, not what I currently am.
Therefore, I'll be admitting to some of this toxic traits I have and reflect on how to change them and If I've been succeeding at it.

starting with: toxic hatred.

I'm someone who hates people with a passion, once I already hate someone it's almost impossible to change my mind and I will go out of my way to let others know I hate someone and give them a bad reputation. This is my worst trait and the one I want to change the most because I always regret doing it, I'm not the most empathetic person in the world but I still feel bad when I shit talk someone. This leads to me completely cutting them out of my life to never knowledge them again, I never even mention their name or think about them anymore. I'm the queen of detachment, I will ghost people or properly cut them off with no issue.  What doesn't help is that I change from loving and adoring someone to hating them in seconds, it can take one small mistake for me to change my entire opinion on someone. I want to change this, I want to learn to forget and forgive, to love people regardless of our disagreements. I want to let go of all this hate in my heart.

this black and white thinking I think is one of the main reasons I used to be diagnosed with a personality disorder, and I don't blame my old psychiatrist. Sometimes I think I have one too!.

I wanted to start with this one because not only does it cause a lot of conflict and Issues in my life, but also I don't know how to fix it all that well.
I think one of the best thing I can do is take a step back before acting on my feelings, breathing for a sec, and let it go but it's SO hard to do that when your feelings are controlling you. I need to manage my impulses, practice self control or else I'll lose everyone!
I find this easy to do through text, to sit back and think before acting I mean. I can't do that in real life because I get emotional, angry or sad as soon as something happens, regardless of how big it is.

"I love my friends and my family, I love even the people I hate and I forgive anyone who ever hurt me. I am free of anger and hurt, I only have love in my heart for everyone and everything"

"I'm grateful for everything I have, Thank you God for giving me another day with my family and friends. Let me love everyone again today and free me of all these negative thoughts and feelings. I love you God and thank you for loving me too, I'll follow your path and become the person you want me to be."

I want to repeat things like this to myself everyday, practicing gratitude and kindness doesn't come naturally to all of us. I'll try my best to change, to love and be better. To be there for others, to be a good thing in the world, because right now I'm none of those things.
God, I am putting my heart in your hands, I know you'll take care of it well and show me the right path. I'm willing to change this time for real. I receive you with open arms.

I may not be empathetic or kind right now, but I'm hopeful I can change that. Among all the mental illness in my brain, I feel like there's chance for beauty to be created somewhere in there. I just have to work really hard to find it and make it come to life.
Please God, don't give up on me yet. I am willing to change.

I'll try to find a way to go to therapy, I have no money for it but I'll try my hardest to find the best way to afford it. I was against it all my life but now I recognize I really need it.

Today I relapsed again, I'm not upset about it. I know I can move on from this. I'm sorry for doing it again, I want to do better. Whenever I do it, I'm just trying to make people have pity for me, it's manipulative so I shouldn't do it. I don't want to be evil, I want to be good so badly.


Bunny divider by kodaswrld in tumblr

 

 

Hello, it's been a bit since we last talked. If you're seeing this as my second blog in spacehey and you haven't seen the first one that's because I posted that one in another account, but came back to my old account because I liked how this profile looked more.

I've been pretty busy drawing, I got sick and stayed in bed for a few days, around 5 and since I opened art trades I did a whole lot of drawing! It was fun and my alien collab got frontpaged in newgrounds, you can see it here but I'll show you the picture anyways. The left alien is made by a nice fellow known as Yaisobog ! He is very talented so please check out his stuff.

I also finished my first art trade of the year with the user BallsyMerc who this OC belongs to. Had a lot of fun drawing this but I wish I would've drawn it in my other art style instead of my simple flash cs6 art style. You'll get to see which art style I mean once I finish the other art trade I'm workin' on! for now, I drew Izabi, you can see her reference sheet here. she is super cute! and the link for this illustration is in here! I appreciate any support in my newgrounds!

so when it comes to life, how have I been doing? I've actually been feeling depressed and sick but thankfully I've had too many distractions to wallow in my misery, instead, I have been hanging out with friends and going to the hospital.