Self improvement month: day 1

[zombehvamp]

I feel like lately God has been sending me a lot of signals that I should let my old self die and become someone new! I keep falling down self destructive habits and I'm ruining my own life by being a bad person. I want to become better for my mom and my friends. I don't think I'll ever truly be able to do this for myself since I truly don't think I can like anything about me, but I can try and be better for others.

I've noticed a lot of narcissistic traits in me, which is why I always call myself one. If I am one, I want to change that. I do have a family member who is a text book narcissist and I'm terrified that I'm becoming like her, I want to be kind and good and loving, not what I currently am.
Therefore, I'll be admitting to some of this toxic traits I have and reflect on how to change them and If I've been succeeding at it.

starting with: toxic hatred.

I'm someone who hates people with a passion, once I already hate someone it's almost impossible to change my mind and I will go out of my way to let others know I hate someone and give them a bad reputation. This is my worst trait and the one I want to change the most because I always regret doing it, I'm not the most empathetic person in the world but I still feel bad when I shit talk someone. This leads to me completely cutting them out of my life to never knowledge them again, I never even mention their name or think about them anymore. I'm the queen of detachment, I will ghost people or properly cut them off with no issue.  What doesn't help is that I change from loving and adoring someone to hating them in seconds, it can take one small mistake for me to change my entire opinion on someone. I want to change this, I want to learn to forget and forgive, to love people regardless of our disagreements. I want to let go of all this hate in my heart.

this black and white thinking I think is one of the main reasons I used to be diagnosed with a personality disorder, and I don't blame my old psychiatrist. Sometimes I think I have one too!.

I wanted to start with this one because not only does it cause a lot of conflict and Issues in my life, but also I don't know how to fix it all that well.
I think one of the best thing I can do is take a step back before acting on my feelings, breathing for a sec, and let it go but it's SO hard to do that when your feelings are controlling you. I need to manage my impulses, practice self control or else I'll lose everyone!
I find this easy to do through text, to sit back and think before acting I mean. I can't do that in real life because I get emotional, angry or sad as soon as something happens, regardless of how big it is.

"I love my friends and my family, I love even the people I hate and I forgive anyone who ever hurt me. I am free of anger and hurt, I only have love in my heart for everyone and everything"

"I'm grateful for everything I have, Thank you God for giving me another day with my family and friends. Let me love everyone again today and free me of all these negative thoughts and feelings. I love you God and thank you for loving me too, I'll follow your path and become the person you want me to be."

I want to repeat things like this to myself everyday, practicing gratitude and kindness doesn't come naturally to all of us. I'll try my best to change, to love and be better. To be there for others, to be a good thing in the world, because right now I'm none of those things.
God, I am putting my heart in your hands, I know you'll take care of it well and show me the right path. I'm willing to change this time for real. I receive you with open arms.

I may not be empathetic or kind right now, but I'm hopeful I can change that. Among all the mental illness in my brain, I feel like there's chance for beauty to be created somewhere in there. I just have to work really hard to find it and make it come to life.
Please God, don't give up on me yet. I am willing to change.

I'll try to find a way to go to therapy, I have no money for it but I'll try my hardest to find the best way to afford it. I was against it all my life but now I recognize I really need it.

Today I relapsed again, I'm not upset about it. I know I can move on from this. I'm sorry for doing it again, I want to do better. Whenever I do it, I'm just trying to make people have pity for me, it's manipulative so I shouldn't do it. I don't want to be evil, I want to be good so badly.


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